According to different surveys, these are the events people think are the most transformative of all: marriage (58%), divorce (49%), becoming a grandparent (40%) or retiring (38%), and becoming a parent (76%). This is probably why an honest post from an experienced nanny on social media became so popular.
Having worked with more than 100 families, this nanny only knew 3 people who were actually happy. According to the nanny, most parents are stressed, exhausted, and their marriages are on the verge of a fallout. And what’s even sadder, they often don’t even seem to realize it. This is why she has very useful pieces of advice on how to maintain happiness for those who’ve decided to have children.
Bright Side has reviewed the recommendations from this experienced nanny and compared them to the opinions of psychologists and experts in relationships and child rearing. Some tips may seem to be too direct and harsh, but they can still be helpful.
Mistake № 1: Not thinking of your financial well-being
More than 50% of parents are stressed because of their financial situation and 63% claim that they sacrifice their financial stability for their children.
These circumstances actually lead to the appearance of conflicts in families.
- “Make a lot of money so you can afford childcare. I don’t mean a ‘weekly date night.’ I mean a nanny for one full day on the weekend and at least 2-3 evenings during the week.”
Mistake № 2: Thinking that the more children you have, the stronger your marriage becomes
There is no single optimal number of children that can make a perfect family. But it is important to realize that children are not a way to make a marriage stronger.